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All the criticism you will receive in your life will fall on a spectrum from “useless” to “extremely valuable.” Before you act on criticism, consider where it falls on this spectrum first, and that will guide you to ignore bad criticism and act on the good criticism.

All the criticism you will receive in your life will fall on a spectrum from “useless” to “extremely valuable.” Before you act on criticism, consider where it falls on this spectrum first, and that will guide you to ignore bad criticism and act on the good criticism.



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  1. Learning who and when to take advice from them is so important. One person is rarely going good advice in every situation.

  2. “If you wouldn’t take someone’s advice don’t take their criticism” is also an important point to remember.

    *Everybody* has an opinion and most are worth disregarding.

  3. I never get offended by criticism. Either it’s something useful, which can make me better, or its useless, and I ignore it.

  4. It is important to remember that **the content** and **the delivery** of criticism are two separate things.

    * Good **content**: Is based on correct principles; actually helps you improve yourself
    * Bad **content**: Stems from the wrong principle; does not help you achieve your goal
    * Good **delivery**: Given in a friendly, constructive, logical manner
    * Bad **delivery**: Given without much thought or consideration; rude or hostile

    And a big part of maturity of life is in how we **handle** criticisms in their 4 combinations:

    ||Good content (helpful)|Bad content (not helpful)|
    |:-|:-|:-|
    |Good delivery (nice)|**Easiest to deal with**: requires no effort, because it is easy to take in, and we should.|**Somewhat hard to correctly deal with**: We should make an effort to appreciate the friendliness, but don’t follow just because the giver is likeable|
    |Bad delivery (hostile)|**Hardest to correctly deal with**: Seeing past the bad delivery to take the good advice for its merit requires true effort!|**2nd easiest to deal with**: we should ignore it, and it is emotionally easy to ignore|

  5. You can also sort the criticism by what are the consequencies if you don’t do that/ never heard the criticism ?

    somebody tell you to not check the amount of left over in the pan ? why ? there is literally no consequencies to your action. if you have remarks to correct you when there is nothing wrong often ,they may be abusive.

    somebody tell you that you really should slow down in this road because there was 3 car crash last year ? fair .

  6. That sounds a lot like Dwight Schrute’s quote from The Office (US): *”Would an idiot do that?’ And if they would, I do not do that thing.”*

  7. Make sure to ask yourself if the person giving the criticism is either knowledgeable on the subject or impacted by whatever it is your doing.

    Also whether their criticism is in good faith

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